Let’s talk about you and me…..
But really, let’s get talking. When is the last time you have had a serious conversation about sex? It could be with your partner, friend, casual hook-up you name it. I’m not sure why we are living in a world that is STILL scared to talk freely about sex. Now, I’m not telling you to tell every gruesome detail of your dirty encounters to your neighbors I am merely influencing you to be more open. Be open with yourself and with people you trust.
From a young age I learned what sex was. Was I ever scared of it? No. Did I learn to respect myself? Yes. Absolutely. I had a mother who told me about the birds and the bees, and as I got older the conversations progressed into more informative knowledge such as learning to protect myself from disease and pregnancy. I was on birth control at a young age (for pms issues) but I had to be informed about all the facts that came along with it. I remember virgin, 16 year old me, was so uncomfortable with my doctor I couldn’t stop laughing. She literally asked me if there was something on her face….. I was young, and so inexperienced that I had no idea what sex was but someday excited to find out.
In college, I had a friend recommended a class to me, human sexuality, and my goodness was it LIFE CHANGING. What other class would I get to show bondage porn and tie up my classmate in? None…. this class had opened my eyes more then I ever though possible. It taught be to be open with my sexual partner, it taught me consent and how to understand it, it taught me unforgettable life lessons I will forever pass on to my children.
When I started really talking about sex, I felt empowered. People believe as a woman you are to be silent, discrete, and wait until marriage. Well guess what?! It’s 2018. That means women can do what ever they damn well please, and many of us do. I can say that my sex life has benefited from being open immensely. I tell my fiancé if I don’t like it, and guess what? I DONT ever have to deal with something I don’t like again. Imagine this.. your partner keeps licking your ear, but it reminds you of a horrible time, but they keep doing it every time because you don’t say anything.. what is that going to do to your sex life? KILL.IT. All you need to say is ” I don’t like it when you…..” and if you are in a healthy relationship, that request will be respected.
This is just a start to a series I plan on writing, but if you want to improve your love making, nasty time, whatever you may call it… start with talking. Be open, and discuss in a positive manor. I promise you, only good things can happen.
Do you feel comfortable talking about sex? If yes why? If no please share? Any questions? Email me!