How To Wedding Plan, Without a Planner

Hello Readers,

Sorry I have been MIA. I have been planning a wedding! As some of you may know, it is a beautiful, crazy, stressful, and expensive time. I know in the long run it will totally be worth it.

I love my life, and moving to California with my almost husband has been amazing. Not one complaint here. We made the wonderful decision to move across the country.

Let me tell you though, trying to wedding plan with out a planner has been… interesting. You have no idea what you are doing, and you have no idea what you need. Setting a budget? What is that when it comes to such a big day in your life. Plus if you set one it is likely that budget wont stay. Every day is jumping through a new hoop.

As we approach our big day, in about two weeks I want you share some insight with my wedding plans without a planner.

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Have someone you can vent about your stress with: Of course I have my fiance, but he is very busy with work and I don’t always want our talk to be about the wedding.

I have had some great talks with my Mom, Brother, & a few close friends. I tend to be a bit easily stressed, and having my rocks totally helps me be more level headed.

You are going to hit road bumps when planning, your vendors may not get  back to you in time, your jeweler may not send you pictures of your wedding bands even though the wedding is two weeks out, or your decorations may not all be planned out.

Just have those people who can reassure you that it will be okay, because it will!

Being your own planner is not luxurious: If you are wanting the TV style weddings, this may not be the best option for you.

My fiance and I were never about having the over the top party. We are expecting about 40 people at our wedding, and we just want to have fun.

We are doing everything from our flowers, to decor, to my lovely friends helping with hair and makeup.

This can be very stressful, but honestly I still do not know what the hell I need to do. If you are marrying the right person though, in the end it wont even matter.

Know What You Really Want: Here are the 3 items that are going to be the most important: Food, Drinks, & Music. Do your research, try different places.

Do not get screwed over, seriously… someone wanted to charge us $400.00 for a tasting (for a mac and cheese bar) Yet, the vendor we went with gave us an amazing meal, for free, and we went with them

Our DJ is awesome, and I pre-made a list of songs I think will get people dancing. I also feel like an open bar is a must, I have been to alcohol- free weddings and it was actually very boring.

Also, buying booze yourself is going to be way cheaper (if you can bring it to your venue, and you have a smaller party).

I luckily work in the wine industry so that helps a bit too.


Stop Inviting People You Don’t Really Care About: Keep this list short and sweet, the less people the less stress.

You want to enjoy your wedding right? If you have 250 plus people there, you will want to be sure to make sure you greet and thank every one for coming.

If it is a small group, you can enjoy the night a little bit more.

Also these people that you do not want there, may be a bit judgmental. There are always those people who want to complain about something at the wedding.

Screw those people.


Have Fun: This is the most important rule to remember.

While everything may seem crazy stressful, remember what you are planning for.

Ryan and I are planning for a life together forever. A life full of love, challenge, and adventure.

If you feel like your going to burst into tears while planning, just do it. You will feel much better.


Let me know how planning your own wedding or event was!


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