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A letter to Anxiety…

Dear Anxiety,

Why do you feel the constant need to hang around?

You feel like a bad friend that wont go away. You are negative and insecure. I don’t mean to be rude, but you make my life harder.

Why do you make my life harder? I have more important issues to focus on.

I don’t need to be in the middle of a meeting feeling dizzy and nervous and have to walk out because I feel like I am going to be sick. There is no reason for you to do that to me.

Even when we are around people you know,  you still give me uneasy feelings around people who I am comfortable with.

Why do I fear you?

When I travel, why do these thoughts come into my head that “this car will come in your lane, or that person is going to rear end you.”

Why are you uncontrollable?

Meditation, working out, healthy eating, self-love… When will it be enough for you?

Endless tears, panic-attacks, anger, irritability, arguments you cause….. Can you please stop?

I am working on myself to be better every day, but somehow you are sneaky and come back into my life, I refuse to let you take over me. You will not win.

Oh anxiety,  I will defeat you.

XOXO

The Stronger Version Of Me

 

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To all my readers who suffer from anxiety. You are not alone. You are not insane. Your mental health is important. I understand what it is like to have no one understand what you are going through. Stay strong and stay tuned for articles about how to deal with your anxieties, and how to maintain your mental health.

 

Feel free to share how you deal with your anxiety. I love new Ideas and maybe someone else will need to read your advice.

 

 

 

How to Host the Holidays

Beautiful Readers, Hope you are well and happy!

We are now entering “Holiday Season”. Some of us may look at this and cheer, and others it may make nervous.

bb(Hand Built Table Made by My Husband and I)

Holidays bring everyone together, and that can bring some stress on whoever is chosen to be host.

Good news is I am here to help you Host! ( In this article at least)

This does not have to be a stressful time. On the contrary, it can be quite fun.

I love to have people over, it gives me a chance to be in charge of a wonderful night. The thought of decorating, and having people enjoy themselves actually excites me.

Here are some simple tips to make hosting easy:

Be Prepared: Make sure you have a count for every head that will be coming to the home. This way you can ensure enough plates, silverware, and food.  We do not want anyone feeling left out.

Plan a meal everyone can enjoy: In the day and age of gluten free, diets, veganism, and health issues it is important to make sure the food you have on the table can suit all appetites. You do not have to do this all alone either, ask people to bring their favorite dish! Make sure the dishes are marked clear so no one eats something they are not supposed to.

Get Décor Tips: I feel like some people are born creative, and others struggle like me. Pinterest has the best pictures to give you tips on how to decorate. I love when I go to a get together and the place looks put together! Make sure you do not over do the décor though, that can take away from valuable food space.

Make People Feel Comfortable: No one likes walking into a place where they don’t feel welcome, I am a greet people at the door with a hug type of person. Also, I always will have some good tunes going to ensure no awkward silence when guest start arriving. A few candles lit will make the home smell amazing, because are there better candles aside from holiday candles?

Drinks: Make sure the is water set out where people do not have to ask for some. When people have a drink in their hands it relaxes them. Honestly, when you think about it what do you do with your hands when they are not occupied? Go to TJ Maxx and get one of those glass jugs with a pour spout for $20.00. throw some fresh fruit in, and let people enjoy.

Set a Timeline: Have a set time for appetizers, dinner, and desert. This will make the flow of the night go a lot smoother. The timing does not have to be exact, but it also lets people know when to be there so no one is walking in towards the end of dinner.

Most of all have fun! Spending time with loved ones is not something we get to enjoy everyday. Make the most of the night. Remember the laughs, the tears, and the happiness that fills your home because that is what matters the most in the long run. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday season filled with love.

XOXO

Lets Talk About Sex Baby

Let’s talk about you and me…..

But really, let’s get talking. When is the last time you have had a serious conversation about sex?

It could be with your partner, friend, casual hook-up you name it. I’m not sure why we are living in a world that is STILL scared to talk freely about sex.

Now, I’m not telling you to tell every gruesome detail of your dirty encounters to your neighbors I am merely influencing you to be more open. Be open with yourself and with people you trust.

From a young age I learned what sex was. Was I ever scared of it? No.

Did I learn to respect myself? Yes. Absolutely.

I had a mother who told me about the birds and the bees, and as I got older the conversations progressed into more informative knowledge such as learning to protect myself from disease and pregnancy.

I was on birth control at a young age (for pms issues) but I had to be informed about all the facts that came along with it. I remember virgin, 16 year old me, was so uncomfortable with my doctor I couldn’t stop laughing.

She literally asked me if there was something on her face….. I was young, and so inexperienced that I had no idea what sex was but someday excited to find out.

In college, I had a friend recommended a class to me, human sexuality, and my goodness was it LIFE CHANGING.

What other class would I get to show bondage porn and tie up my classmate in? None…. this class had opened my eyes more then I ever though possible.

It taught be to be open with my sexual partner, it taught me consent and how to understand it, it taught me unforgettable life lessons I will forever pass on to my children.

When I started really talking about sex, I felt empowered.

People believe as a woman you are to be silent, discrete, and wait until marriage.

Well guess what?! It’s 2018.

That means women can do what ever they damn well please, and many of us do.

I can say that my sex life has benefited from being open immensely.

I tell my fiancé if I don’t like it, and guess what? I DONT ever have to deal with something I don’t like again.

Imagine this.. your partner keeps licking your ear, but it reminds you of a horrible time, but they keep doing it every time because you don’t say anything.. what is that going to do to your sex life? KILL.IT. All you need to say is ” I don’t like it when you…..” and if you are in a healthy relationship, that request will be respected.

This is just a start to a series I plan on writing, but if you want to improve your love making, nasty time, whatever you may call it… start with talking. Be open, and discuss in a positive manor. I promise you, only good things can happen.

Do you feel comfortable talking about sex? If yes why? If no please share? Any questions? Email me!