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How to Host the Holidays

Beautiful Readers, Hope you are well and happy!

We are now entering “Holiday Season”. Some of us may look at this and cheer, and others it may make nervous.

bb(Hand Built Table Made by My Husband and I)

Holidays bring everyone together, and that can bring some stress on whoever is chosen to be host.

Good news is I am here to help you Host! ( In this article at least)

This does not have to be a stressful time. On the contrary, it can be quite fun.

I love to have people over, it gives me a chance to be in charge of a wonderful night. The thought of decorating, and having people enjoy themselves actually excites me.

Here are some simple tips to make hosting easy:

Be Prepared: Make sure you have a count for every head that will be coming to the home. This way you can ensure enough plates, silverware, and food.  We do not want anyone feeling left out.

Plan a meal everyone can enjoy: In the day and age of gluten free, diets, veganism, and health issues it is important to make sure the food you have on the table can suit all appetites. You do not have to do this all alone either, ask people to bring their favorite dish! Make sure the dishes are marked clear so no one eats something they are not supposed to.

Get Décor Tips: I feel like some people are born creative, and others struggle like me. Pinterest has the best pictures to give you tips on how to decorate. I love when I go to a get together and the place looks put together! Make sure you do not over do the décor though, that can take away from valuable food space.

Make People Feel Comfortable: No one likes walking into a place where they don’t feel welcome, I am a greet people at the door with a hug type of person. Also, I always will have some good tunes going to ensure no awkward silence when guest start arriving. A few candles lit will make the home smell amazing, because are there better candles aside from holiday candles?

Drinks: Make sure the is water set out where people do not have to ask for some. When people have a drink in their hands it relaxes them. Honestly, when you think about it what do you do with your hands when they are not occupied? Go to TJ Maxx and get one of those glass jugs with a pour spout for $20.00. throw some fresh fruit in, and let people enjoy.

Set a Timeline: Have a set time for appetizers, dinner, and desert. This will make the flow of the night go a lot smoother. The timing does not have to be exact, but it also lets people know when to be there so no one is walking in towards the end of dinner.

Most of all have fun! Spending time with loved ones is not something we get to enjoy everyday. Make the most of the night. Remember the laughs, the tears, and the happiness that fills your home because that is what matters the most in the long run. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday season filled with love.

XOXO

How To Wedding Plan, Without a Planner

Hello Readers,

Sorry I have been MIA. I have been planning a wedding! As some of you may know, it is a beautiful, crazy, stressful, and expensive time. I know in the long run it will totally be worth it.

I love my life, and moving to California with my almost husband has been amazing. Not one complaint here. We made the wonderful decision to move across the country.

Let me tell you though, trying to wedding plan with out a planner has been… interesting. You have no idea what you are doing, and you have no idea what you need. Setting a budget? What is that when it comes to such a big day in your life. Plus if you set one it is likely that budget wont stay. Every day is jumping through a new hoop.

As we approach our big day, in about two weeks I want you share some insight with my wedding plans without a planner.

food couple sweet married
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Have someone you can vent about your stress with: Of course I have my fiance, but he is very busy with work and I don’t always want our talk to be about the wedding.

I have had some great talks with my Mom, Brother, & a few close friends. I tend to be a bit easily stressed, and having my rocks totally helps me be more level headed.

You are going to hit road bumps when planning, your vendors may not get  back to you in time, your jeweler may not send you pictures of your wedding bands even though the wedding is two weeks out, or your decorations may not all be planned out.

Just have those people who can reassure you that it will be okay, because it will!

Being your own planner is not luxurious: If you are wanting the TV style weddings, this may not be the best option for you.

My fiance and I were never about having the over the top party. We are expecting about 40 people at our wedding, and we just want to have fun.

We are doing everything from our flowers, to decor, to my lovely friends helping with hair and makeup.

This can be very stressful, but honestly I still do not know what the hell I need to do. If you are marrying the right person though, in the end it wont even matter.

Know What You Really Want: Here are the 3 items that are going to be the most important: Food, Drinks, & Music. Do your research, try different places.

Do not get screwed over, seriously… someone wanted to charge us $400.00 for a tasting (for a mac and cheese bar) Yet, the vendor we went with gave us an amazing meal, for free, and we went with them

Our DJ is awesome, and I pre-made a list of songs I think will get people dancing. I also feel like an open bar is a must, I have been to alcohol- free weddings and it was actually very boring.

Also, buying booze yourself is going to be way cheaper (if you can bring it to your venue, and you have a smaller party).

I luckily work in the wine industry so that helps a bit too.

 

Stop Inviting People You Don’t Really Care About: Keep this list short and sweet, the less people the less stress.

You want to enjoy your wedding right? If you have 250 plus people there, you will want to be sure to make sure you greet and thank every one for coming.

If it is a small group, you can enjoy the night a little bit more.

Also these people that you do not want there, may be a bit judgmental. There are always those people who want to complain about something at the wedding.

Screw those people.

 

Have Fun: This is the most important rule to remember.

While everything may seem crazy stressful, remember what you are planning for.

Ryan and I are planning for a life together forever. A life full of love, challenge, and adventure.

If you feel like your going to burst into tears while planning, just do it. You will feel much better.

 

Let me know how planning your own wedding or event was!

 

Myth VS. Fact- Sex Toys

Being adventurous in any part of life brings new thrills, but what happens when you bring in into the bedroom?

Pure excitement, heightened senses, pain that turns into pleasure. You name it, it can happen.

There is a lot of negative stigma around sex toys, and I want to push away from those dated assumptions.

Here is a little Myth Vs. Fact about Sex Toys:

Sex Toys are for People Who Have Bad Sex Lives

MYTH

People use sex toys for many different reasons. I would never say a reason is because of a bad sex life.

Actually, people who feel comfortable enough to use toys may be thriving in bed.

Certain types of toys, such as a vibrator, can help you understand your body better. If you can find out what gets your off, why wouldn’t you want to do that

Sex Toys are Scary

Myth

This all depends on your take of what you are willing to do.

If you enjoy a vanilla sex life, toys are probably going to be a bit more intimidating, but that is okay.

It is important that you know how to use the toys, your partner included.

Last last thing you want is a gag ball in your mouth, when in reality you really really need some air.

SAFE WORDS are of utter importance. Before any games are played make sure you and your partner have a word for when the pain, choking, or experience is too intense.

Sex Toys are Dirty

Fact

Sex toys are dirty ;)…. and dirty…. it all depends on your take.

It is very important to keep your toys clean and stored properly.

If anything goes inside any part of your body, be sure to clean it properly to avoid any infection.

Some People Need Toys to Orgasm

Fact

This is nothing to be ashamed of.

There are many different types of sexual dysfunctions, and I don’t even like to call it that because I do not want people to feel ashamed.

Some men can not stay hard the entire duration of sex, but wearing a c-ring can keep the blood flow in the penis.

And some women have trouble climaxing with out a vibrator.

This does not make any human less valuable in bed. If your partner wants to use a toy, and you feel comfortable encourage it.

Sex toys have been around for decades . It is not a new fad.

If you ever decide to experiment make sure you know how to use the toy, and you feel comfortable with the person you are with .

Lets Talk About Sex Baby

Let’s talk about you and me…..

But really, let’s get talking. When is the last time you have had a serious conversation about sex?

It could be with your partner, friend, casual hook-up you name it. I’m not sure why we are living in a world that is STILL scared to talk freely about sex.

Now, I’m not telling you to tell every gruesome detail of your dirty encounters to your neighbors I am merely influencing you to be more open. Be open with yourself and with people you trust.

From a young age I learned what sex was. Was I ever scared of it? No.

Did I learn to respect myself? Yes. Absolutely.

I had a mother who told me about the birds and the bees, and as I got older the conversations progressed into more informative knowledge such as learning to protect myself from disease and pregnancy.

I was on birth control at a young age (for pms issues) but I had to be informed about all the facts that came along with it. I remember virgin, 16 year old me, was so uncomfortable with my doctor I couldn’t stop laughing.

She literally asked me if there was something on her face….. I was young, and so inexperienced that I had no idea what sex was but someday excited to find out.

In college, I had a friend recommended a class to me, human sexuality, and my goodness was it LIFE CHANGING.

What other class would I get to show bondage porn and tie up my classmate in? None…. this class had opened my eyes more then I ever though possible.

It taught be to be open with my sexual partner, it taught me consent and how to understand it, it taught me unforgettable life lessons I will forever pass on to my children.

When I started really talking about sex, I felt empowered.

People believe as a woman you are to be silent, discrete, and wait until marriage.

Well guess what?! It’s 2018.

That means women can do what ever they damn well please, and many of us do.

I can say that my sex life has benefited from being open immensely.

I tell my fiancé if I don’t like it, and guess what? I DONT ever have to deal with something I don’t like again.

Imagine this.. your partner keeps licking your ear, but it reminds you of a horrible time, but they keep doing it every time because you don’t say anything.. what is that going to do to your sex life? KILL.IT. All you need to say is ” I don’t like it when you…..” and if you are in a healthy relationship, that request will be respected.

This is just a start to a series I plan on writing, but if you want to improve your love making, nasty time, whatever you may call it… start with talking. Be open, and discuss in a positive manor. I promise you, only good things can happen.

Do you feel comfortable talking about sex? If yes why? If no please share? Any questions? Email me!