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Let’s be Sex Positive

I talk about sex to liberate people and encourage you not to be fearful of the inevitable. SEX! Being sex positive is more than just having sex.

It is about accepting all aspects of sexual orientation, practices, fetishes, and so on.

If you want to take the leap to be more accepting, I’ll tell you some easy ways how.

Stop slut shaming. I do not agree with derogatory terms.

The way you act, the choices you make, what you wear, and the people you sleep with do. not. define you. I know I have been called those terrible names for choices I have made, and I’m sure you may have been too.

If people feel the need to say those words, they are most likely fearful or envious of the choices you are bold enough to take. Some people long to be tied-up, blind folded, and experience new pleasures; yet, many don’t know how or when to try.

Even if you don’t agree with ones lifestyle stop talking shit. Okay?

Speak about sex as as adult. Please STOP teaching children to say “pee pee” or ” wee wee” as proper terms for genitalia.

You are teaching children to already have a stigma about sex when you teach them these childish terms.

Teach your child how and when to talk about these things. Teaching children the proper knowledge will not only guide them to be sex positive, but, it will teach them to respect their bodies as well as the bodies of others.

Don’t be scared to teach young ones reality, please stop teaching them about fairies and unicorns and get real. As for adults, the same advice goes. No one wants to hear about how you ” banged” this hot girl/girl you met at the bar.

Leave the gruesome details for your diary. It’s okay to share your sexual encounters as long as your partner is okay with it.

Sex is meant to be respected. There is a difference between a talking about your partner and referring to your adventure in a positive way. It took me a while to learn the difference, but I’m glad I did.

Be open to learning. Alfred Kinsey is the mastermind behind modern day sexuality.

His innovation and passion has curated information that we need to understand. Take a moment to read about his findings.

Google the Kinsey scale and see how you identify. Learning about your sexuality is a leap towards becoming sex positive. This way you can better understand your relationships.

Hold your judgment. You are allowed to have opinions, but keep your negativity to yourself. You never know what someone may have gone through that could shape who they are today. Be a nice person, put your clouded judgement aside, and see that all forms of sexuality as interesting and beautiful.

Being sex positive is a way to better this world. Love one another for who they are, and support who they want to be.

Xoxo #TalkNastyWithNic

Lets Talk About Sex Baby

Let’s talk about you and me…..

But really, let’s get talking. When is the last time you have had a serious conversation about sex?

It could be with your partner, friend, casual hook-up you name it. I’m not sure why we are living in a world that is STILL scared to talk freely about sex.

Now, I’m not telling you to tell every gruesome detail of your dirty encounters to your neighbors I am merely influencing you to be more open. Be open with yourself and with people you trust.

From a young age I learned what sex was. Was I ever scared of it? No.

Did I learn to respect myself? Yes. Absolutely.

I had a mother who told me about the birds and the bees, and as I got older the conversations progressed into more informative knowledge such as learning to protect myself from disease and pregnancy.

I was on birth control at a young age (for pms issues) but I had to be informed about all the facts that came along with it. I remember virgin, 16 year old me, was so uncomfortable with my doctor I couldn’t stop laughing.

She literally asked me if there was something on her face….. I was young, and so inexperienced that I had no idea what sex was but someday excited to find out.

In college, I had a friend recommended a class to me, human sexuality, and my goodness was it LIFE CHANGING.

What other class would I get to show bondage porn and tie up my classmate in? None…. this class had opened my eyes more then I ever though possible.

It taught be to be open with my sexual partner, it taught me consent and how to understand it, it taught me unforgettable life lessons I will forever pass on to my children.

When I started really talking about sex, I felt empowered.

People believe as a woman you are to be silent, discrete, and wait until marriage.

Well guess what?! It’s 2018.

That means women can do what ever they damn well please, and many of us do.

I can say that my sex life has benefited from being open immensely.

I tell my fiancé if I don’t like it, and guess what? I DONT ever have to deal with something I don’t like again.

Imagine this.. your partner keeps licking your ear, but it reminds you of a horrible time, but they keep doing it every time because you don’t say anything.. what is that going to do to your sex life? KILL.IT. All you need to say is ” I don’t like it when you…..” and if you are in a healthy relationship, that request will be respected.

This is just a start to a series I plan on writing, but if you want to improve your love making, nasty time, whatever you may call it… start with talking. Be open, and discuss in a positive manor. I promise you, only good things can happen.

Do you feel comfortable talking about sex? If yes why? If no please share? Any questions? Email me!