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A letter to Anxiety…

Dear Anxiety,

Why do you feel the constant need to hang around?

You feel like a bad friend that wont go away. You are negative and insecure. I don’t mean to be rude, but you make my life harder.

Why do you make my life harder? I have more important issues to focus on.

I don’t need to be in the middle of a meeting feeling dizzy and nervous and have to walk out because I feel like I am going to be sick. There is no reason for you to do that to me.

Even when we are around people you know,  you still give me uneasy feelings around people who I am comfortable with.

Why do I fear you?

When I travel, why do these thoughts come into my head that “this car will come in your lane, or that person is going to rear end you.”

Why are you uncontrollable?

Meditation, working out, healthy eating, self-love… When will it be enough for you?

Endless tears, panic-attacks, anger, irritability, arguments you cause….. Can you please stop?

I am working on myself to be better every day, but somehow you are sneaky and come back into my life, I refuse to let you take over me. You will not win.

Oh anxiety,  I will defeat you.

XOXO

The Stronger Version Of Me

 

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To all my readers who suffer from anxiety. You are not alone. You are not insane. Your mental health is important. I understand what it is like to have no one understand what you are going through. Stay strong and stay tuned for articles about how to deal with your anxieties, and how to maintain your mental health.

 

Feel free to share how you deal with your anxiety. I love new Ideas and maybe someone else will need to read your advice.

 

 

 

Keep Your Skin Soft This Winter

Hello my beautiful Hippy readers. I hope life is well, and you are in good spirits. I know we are approaching cold season, and for some of us we are already there.

Our skin is the mold of our body, so we need to protect it.

As some of you may or may not know, I have moved to the desert. While it may be a beautiful place, it is extremely dry and at first healthy skin was a struggle for me.

My skin is finally adjusting to this new climate, and I wanted to share some of my tips to help you keep your skin healthy as well.

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Lotion: As we all know, all of our skin types are different, so find a lotion that works for you. I have recently starting using Dr. Teals Lotion. It smells amazing and comes in a few different scents,  my favorite being the lavender. I also use the gold bond, cocoanut scented lotion which is great for extra dry skin. Every morning I wake up and apply to my neck, arms, and face( use caution if you have sensitive skin to avoid break outs), and every nights before I go to bed. Keeping your skin moisturized helps avoid wrinkles in the future.

 

Lips:  Keeping your lips soft is not so easy when the weather changes quickly. When they become dry and cracked it is very painful. For so long regular Chapstick was in my skincare regimen, and rumor has it your lips become addicted to the product and chapped lips become worse ( if someone finds this study let me know). The best product I have used is Aquaphor. I generally use this on my tattoos to help them heal faster, but since I had a lot left over I started using this for my lips. I apply through out the day, and they have managed to stay soft.

 

Baths: I love to get home from work, grab a good book, and soak in a hot bath to wind down from the work day. I have to be cautious of the heat and dehydration when bathing though. Epsom salts have become part of my routine when soaking. The salts are absorbed into your skin to relive muscle pain, and relax the body. I also feel my skin is baby soft when I get out. As I mentioned though, if you use these you can get dehydrated. Make sure you drink plenty of water while using these.

 

Water: This is everything. Water needs to be your main focus when trying to maintain your smooth skin. When you wake up try to drink a full glass of lemon water. Heat up the water, and drink it during your morning routine. Side note: I wake up early, and sometimes have stomach aches. When I drink warm lemon water, it helps aide my digestion and makes for a much better day.  You can also drink herbal teas, which hydrate you as well. My favorite tea ever is the Tazo- Passion Fruit Tea and I swear I can drink 10 cups a day.  Find a flavor you love, and stay hydrated! Make sure you are also getting enough electrolytes, this will keep your immune system healthy as well.

 

These are simple ways that you can maintain health skin. Stay looking youthful and keep that healthy glow amidst the brutal winter dryness. I know it may be hard, but you can do it!

What products have you used to avoid dry skin?!

 

XOXO

How To Wedding Plan, Without a Planner

Hello Readers,

Sorry I have been MIA. I have been planning a wedding! As some of you may know, it is a beautiful, crazy, stressful, and expensive time. I know in the long run it will totally be worth it.

I love my life, and moving to California with my almost husband has been amazing. Not one complaint here. We made the wonderful decision to move across the country.

Let me tell you though, trying to wedding plan with out a planner has been… interesting. You have no idea what you are doing, and you have no idea what you need. Setting a budget? What is that when it comes to such a big day in your life. Plus if you set one it is likely that budget wont stay. Every day is jumping through a new hoop.

As we approach our big day, in about two weeks I want you share some insight with my wedding plans without a planner.

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Have someone you can vent about your stress with: Of course I have my fiance, but he is very busy with work and I don’t always want our talk to be about the wedding.

I have had some great talks with my Mom, Brother, & a few close friends. I tend to be a bit easily stressed, and having my rocks totally helps me be more level headed.

You are going to hit road bumps when planning, your vendors may not get  back to you in time, your jeweler may not send you pictures of your wedding bands even though the wedding is two weeks out, or your decorations may not all be planned out.

Just have those people who can reassure you that it will be okay, because it will!

Being your own planner is not luxurious: If you are wanting the TV style weddings, this may not be the best option for you.

My fiance and I were never about having the over the top party. We are expecting about 40 people at our wedding, and we just want to have fun.

We are doing everything from our flowers, to decor, to my lovely friends helping with hair and makeup.

This can be very stressful, but honestly I still do not know what the hell I need to do. If you are marrying the right person though, in the end it wont even matter.

Know What You Really Want: Here are the 3 items that are going to be the most important: Food, Drinks, & Music. Do your research, try different places.

Do not get screwed over, seriously… someone wanted to charge us $400.00 for a tasting (for a mac and cheese bar) Yet, the vendor we went with gave us an amazing meal, for free, and we went with them

Our DJ is awesome, and I pre-made a list of songs I think will get people dancing. I also feel like an open bar is a must, I have been to alcohol- free weddings and it was actually very boring.

Also, buying booze yourself is going to be way cheaper (if you can bring it to your venue, and you have a smaller party).

I luckily work in the wine industry so that helps a bit too.

 

Stop Inviting People You Don’t Really Care About: Keep this list short and sweet, the less people the less stress.

You want to enjoy your wedding right? If you have 250 plus people there, you will want to be sure to make sure you greet and thank every one for coming.

If it is a small group, you can enjoy the night a little bit more.

Also these people that you do not want there, may be a bit judgmental. There are always those people who want to complain about something at the wedding.

Screw those people.

 

Have Fun: This is the most important rule to remember.

While everything may seem crazy stressful, remember what you are planning for.

Ryan and I are planning for a life together forever. A life full of love, challenge, and adventure.

If you feel like your going to burst into tears while planning, just do it. You will feel much better.

 

Let me know how planning your own wedding or event was!