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A letter to Anxiety…

Dear Anxiety,

Why do you feel the constant need to hang around?

You feel like a bad friend that wont go away. You are negative and insecure. I don’t mean to be rude, but you make my life harder.

Why do you make my life harder? I have more important issues to focus on.

I don’t need to be in the middle of a meeting feeling dizzy and nervous and have to walk out because I feel like I am going to be sick. There is no reason for you to do that to me.

Even when we are around people you know,  you still give me uneasy feelings around people who I am comfortable with.

Why do I fear you?

When I travel, why do these thoughts come into my head that “this car will come in your lane, or that person is going to rear end you.”

Why are you uncontrollable?

Meditation, working out, healthy eating, self-love… When will it be enough for you?

Endless tears, panic-attacks, anger, irritability, arguments you cause….. Can you please stop?

I am working on myself to be better every day, but somehow you are sneaky and come back into my life, I refuse to let you take over me. You will not win.

Oh anxiety,  I will defeat you.

XOXO

The Stronger Version Of Me

 

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To all my readers who suffer from anxiety. You are not alone. You are not insane. Your mental health is important. I understand what it is like to have no one understand what you are going through. Stay strong and stay tuned for articles about how to deal with your anxieties, and how to maintain your mental health.

 

Feel free to share how you deal with your anxiety. I love new Ideas and maybe someone else will need to read your advice.

 

 

 

Benefits of Working a Job You Enjoy

After you finish school, you realize it is time to put your big boy or girl pants on and start a job. With not too much thought into it, you take a job that will pay you a 1/2 ass  hourly or salary rate and think that will be good for you.

You begin this so called “career” and everything seems fine to start.

After a few months you begin to realize you can not stand this job you are at, and it starts to alter your personal life.

You get home from work, and are too exhausted to even do anything because you are mentally drained.

Unless you are a lucky one who has started in a career you love. Which is amazing and you keep doing you honey!

If you are like the rest of us, it is time to make a career switch and look for something you love!

I am one of those who have had a few jobs since I graduated college. Working these dead end customer service jobs to make a living.  I had worked with micromanagers, sexual harassers, and just negative/ bitchy employees. It took such a toll on my personal life and relationships, and I was OVER IT.

When my husband got a promotion and we moved to the desert, there really were not any jobs for me. By luck, I was told about a temporary position at the company my husband works at.

Of course I took it. I really had no idea what to expect.

This job did not have the pay I want or really any benefits, so I went in a bit skeptical.  Funny though, because this has turned out to be the best job I have ever had.

I am learning  a multitude of different skills I never had a chance to learn in my dead end customer service jobs. Skills that will benefit me to move up in a career.

On top of that, the guys I work for are so supportive. They push me to be a better person and don’t make me feel unintelligent if I make a mistake. I have worked many jobs that will degrade you for a simple mistake, instead of showing you how to fix it.

Work culture should be very important to you when searching for your fit. If you don’t like the environment, you most likely wont enjoy your job. There is not a day that goes by where I am not dying laughing at someone’s joke where I am currently employed. Also, this work environment has a very family like feel. Everyone says hello, you know about their families, and you get to know each other. Working in a big part of our life, so you need to enjoy the people you are around.

The rewards I have gained from working a job I love are unmeasurable. I am happy. I do not stress out about making a mistake, because we are all human and that happens.  I am not exhausted after work, so I live a healthier life style. I don’t drive past work and cringe at the though of going back in. Yes, I have made some sacrifices such as the pay I want and the location where I want to be, but I know in the long run this will pay off.

 

If you are not happy at your current job, you are not stuck. We all have skills that can help us obtain a good job. Know that your happiness and mental health is more than your paycheck. Find your passion, and when you do your job will fit like a puzzle piece.

 

 

 

How To Maintain Your Sex Drive

If you are reading this, I get the idea that you love sex, or maybe you once loved sex and you want to love it again. Maybe you STILL love sex, but your drive for it has diminished. I get it. Life. Gets. Hard.  You get tired, totally understandable, but do yourself a favor and don’t give up that hobby of pleasure. What I want my readers to know is that I have studied sexuality in curriculum and in the the real world. I am not a licensed therapist or  your doctor, but what I can tell you are things I have studied and learned throughout my adult life. So how about I tell you how to keep that libio up, up, up(literally for my biologically male readers)!

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  1. Exercise- Keep yourself in shape. Not just so you feel good, but so you can  perform well. Going to the gym 30 minutes a day will boost your endorphins, I am not sure by how much? but it will. You know that feeling you get when you have a kick ass work out? Imagine that after having sex, which is how it should always feel! If you do not like going to the gym, i’ll let you in on a secret workout as well. SEX. Thats right, there is that new saying “30 minutes a day keeps the doctor away”…. right?…. Maybe…
  2. Separate Work Vs. Real Life- I know you hear this all the time, but really let it sink in.   How many of you go home and stress about tomorrows work load? I know I am guilty of this as well. This is something that may take time, but it will come. If you have the option to, leave work where it belongs…at work. When you get home, grab your boo, and just cuddle, cuddle naked! See where that takes you.
  3. Have Self Confidence- I do not care if you think you are fat, flubby, whatever you want to call it. Feel sexy about yourself!! When you feel good about yourself, you want someone all over you. I remember if I would go out and not shave my legs I would be so terrified someone would not think I was unattractive. Since I have learned to let go of what people think about me, I say screw it. I look in the mirror with my harry legs, and I’m like damn.. my baby still loves me because I love myself.
  4. Diet- No, I am not telling you to diet, I am simply telling you to watch your diet. Foods/ drinks you put into your body truly can cause sexual “malfunctions” You have heard of whiskey dick, correct? (If you haven’t please e-mail me I will fill you in on all the details) Well, it is more than just alcohol that causes potential sexual mishaps . This also includes processed foods, diet sodas which contains aspartame which messes with those serotonin levels, even drinking out of a plastic water bottle (which you should totally just get a reusable one right now) can harm your reproductive system( calling out to you males!) . Be cautious of what goes in your body, not just for sexual purposes, but because you have one body and need to take care of it.  Try consuming these foods for a little boost: Spinach, Dark chocolate, Green tea, Ginger (not my dog).
  5. My Last tip of the day, Sleep- Get plenty of rest. If you sleep well, pretty much every thing you can control in your life gets better. Do you have trouble sleeping? Well, saddle up and go for a ride if you know what I mean. Falling asleep after an orgasm is guaranteeing dreams of puppies and flowers.   If your partner is not there, it is okay to masturbate too, ya know. Nothing relaxes you quite like pleasure.

Well there ya have it folks, some simple tips to keep the sex engine revving. Now go ahead and do what you need to do to have your self a damn good night. If you need any further guidance, don’t be shy. I wont tell yo mama what you plan on doin. Reach out! I am the easiest person to talk to, and I will give you advice to the best of my knowledge.

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